Idris Dior - 2019 - 2021 SouthEast Person of Leather
is a 40 year old, Gender Fluid, Non-binary Person of Color. An androgynous person with a flamboyant personality, Idris found the perfect passion in Cosmetology. This career allows the expression of personality and creativity in a profession that is seldom judged by norms.
Although kink didn’t begin there, Idris’ leather journey began by joining The Men of ONYX in 2015. Deciding there was a bigger story to share, Idris captured the title of Mx. NC Leather. Although the “title stage” gave the spotlight, it wasn’t used for self-motivation, instead to educate and give a model to persons (especially youth), that are struggling with identity issues. The goal is to reinforce that it OK just to be “you!”
Idris identifies as a “switch” who enjoys numerous kinks and fetishes including: Ass play, Erotic Massage, Water sports, Sensory play, CBT, Wax play, Body shaving and Edge play.
Calendar of Events
October 5 , 2019 ——- Tradesmen Bar night at the WoodShed in Charlotte, NC
October 24 - 27 ——— Leather History Preservation Weekend in Atlanta, GA
May 2022 Column
Hello everyone,
Well it is finally the time for me to step aside and no longer be your current SOUTHEAST PERSON OF LEATHER. I’m actually going to try to get through this without being too emotional or should I say getting emotional. Words can’t express how much the SouthEast has changed and saved my life. The only thing I can say is that I will always and forever be eternally grateful for this opportunity. Here are just a few pictures that I was able to take before we shut down in the pandemic I hope you enjoy the memories as much as I enjoyed making them.
January 2022 Column
Greetings Everyone,
I know it has been a while since my last column, I do deeply apologize but as we all know the past few years life has been crazy for us all with Covid and social distancing and having to learn a whole new way of life. This task was somewhat especially hard for me due to being separated from a lot of people that were very dear to my heart it kind of sent me into a depressed state and actually make me kind of shut down and pull away from a lot of things. Also unfortunately I was one of the individuals due to the Covid shut down who lost their entire business. But God is good I am recovering and coming back from that.
So let’s talk a little bit about being an ally for an individual who may be dealing with some type of mental illness. Now with all of the social distancing the capacity limitations on venues makes it hard for us is a Leather community to gather or even to stay in contact a lot of us only saw each other in bars events or things like that zoom and FaceTime have become a great help for me as far is staying in contact being able to see individuals still learn and teach and grow with individuals. So please if you have a friend or someone that you care about, take the time out to chec in, call, FaceTime, or even a zoom. A lot of times we just need to see individuals to make sure that we’re in a good headspace to let them know that you are there, you’re an ally . I have actually even started trying to download some games in my App Store that I can actually play with some of my leather family over the Internet so from day today we actually have some kind of interaction, we’re checking on each other, and if it takes you too long to make that next move you know I sent a text, call to say, "hey yo, did you forget about the game and also I want to check on you."
I’m happy to say I will be judging a contest this coming March, so be on the look out for it to be announced. I’m also open and ready to educate and empower on the subjects of gender identity and sexual activity along with taking it down the road through the eyes of a POC non-binary individual. Feel free to contact me at any of the emails or social media links listed below
Fetlife: bboirednc
Tweeter: @broadie75
IG : s_o_a_f_
Btavis79@yahoo.com
January 2020 Column
Hey Hey, how is everyone? It has been a minute. I must apologize for the delay but I have been getting ready for “SIN IN THE CITY" 2020. I hope to see some of you there. So let's share, I would like to talk about a few things:
First let’s talk about depression and the people of color community. This is a big issue within the people of color community because of the sole fact of even admitting that you have a problem mentally whether that be depression or any other type of mental illness is a problem within itself. In this community to admit that you are having mental problems or you may have a mental break down seeking medical help is never the answer. The answer that most people of color were taught to deal with this situation is to pray and give it to GOD. Which is somewhat the correct answer.
However in today’s society the stress and strain of every day life can be very overwhelming to individuals. We are now living in a society where individuals are trying to make individuals be a certain sexual identity or a certain gender and on top of all of that the work environment is not the best. Just take the time out to really look in research on how much suicide has went up with in the people of color community.
Is it because the people of color or too scared to ask for help or is it that the knowledge of the resources that are out there to help is not being made available them? Do they even know about national organizations such as the Trevor Project? The Trevor Project is one of many organizations that help young LGBT living under the age of 25 with crisis prevention and suicide prevention. Programs like this are very ideal in the community is a big need for them. But the question is even though there’s a big need for for them will they be accessible for everyone?
I tell you what how about you’ll help me and I help you let’s sit out in 2020 to spread the word about foundations and organizations like the Trevor Project or any of the crisis prevention or suicide prevention informational organizations that you may know.
With lots of Leather Love,
Mx Idris Dior ONYX
P.S.
YOU HAVE WITHIN YOU RIGHT NOW, EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO DEAL WITH WHATEVER THE WORLD CAN THROW AT YOU.
Brian Tracy
Oct 2019 Column
Greetings Family,
I hope all is well with everyone. I would like to take a few minutes and talk about why I choose not to use any pronouns. I came to this decision because I want people to look at Idris for the person I am: keyword being person. Regardless of my skin color, religion, sexual identity, gender identity, or other identifiers, I want my work in the Community, my morals, my values, and my work ethic to speak for me like they did at S.E.L.F. this year. I really wanted to show who I was as a person, with and without my Leather.
Yes, I have had some good days and bad days (or as I like to call them teachable moments). No, I don’t dress like most males or females or act like them either but I’m still a “Person", with feelings, hopes, dreams, and goals. So to sum it all up, I just want to be looked at as a person: nothing more, nothing less.
P.S. We must all remember everything is a process, which means things take time, processing and change. I am not nor will I be offended when someone uses a pronoun to refer to me or when speaking with me. It takes some getting used to, it did for me .
Now on to a few thank yous: CAPEX of Charlotte thank you much!!!!!!!
CAPEX allowed me to teach a class on Gender Bending and Non Binary, it was a blast , so much so that I’m coming back to do a part two , we got so into discussion that we ran overtime twice lol , I love all of them from the bottom of my heart. They have also donated $300.00 to my travel fund. THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH!!!!!!!!
I have one more thank you,
Thank you House of Valor, dinner was out of this world, I will wear your house pin with great pride.
Thank you NCMaster I will wear your pin with pride.
June 2019 Column
Hello everyone,
Thank you all so very much. Words can not begin to express how thankful and over joyed I am. My apologies for the delay, but it has just really hit me that I’m not living in my dreams but I’m living my reality. I made so many new friends and networked and made new family. There are just a few people that I have to give a special "Thank You" to because without I couldn’t have made to S.E.L.F.
Sir Enzo —— Shed Leather ( wardrobe )
Sir KG ONYX — (My Sir)
Deon Hooks —— (My Daddy and Handler)
Petal Schimmel — (The amazing basket for audition)
Lady D ————— (For your add-ons to the basket)
Hotel Staff ——— (the hospitality is out of this world)
Tori Jones ————(Bootblack)
Mid Altc OXYN pearls
Stan, Jamal, Reggie, EJ ——— (ONYX Southeast founding fathers)
Leo Onyx
Timothy Lee
Judging Panel
Cara ————— (Co-handler)
Wolfie and TCake ——— (lacing my corset)
I think I got everyone if not please forgive me. In my next column i will post all my new contact information, but for now please feel free to friend request me on Facebook (Idris Dior ONYX)